4 No Bullshit Mindset Tips…Don’t Do Them at Your Expense
Disclaimer: this article has mature language, so you can retreat now if you are easily offended. I am also going to use the word “man”, it’s in the context of “human” not only referring to the male sex. These tips are equally as important to women as they are men.
So here we go…
There are only four things you need to do to understand the universe. It’s not about positive thinking or saying your affirmations everyday while doing yoga. I’m not saying don’t do them because they do augment the 4 no bullshit mindset tips.
They have nothing to do with religion of any kind. If you worship a higher being and feel good about it that is great. I am not going to try to change your mind.
But all that stuff on the periphery is not going to do shit without these four understandings about yourself and how you think. If you don’t understand or even recognize some of your limiting beliefs you will always be a “beta” never an alpha.
The first mindset is… Believe you are the fu*king man! Believe in yourself!
I don’t mean arrogance and conceit, I mean confidence. The feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.
John Maxwell says “You cannot outperform your self-image”
If you don’t believe in you, then who is going to? If you have doubts about you doing anything then you are not going to get that done. I don’t care how much you say you want it.
Wanting is NOT doing…wishing is not doing…hoping is not doing. The ONLY thing that is doing is doing. And belief in YOU will get you doing, make you act even if it’s wrong. And if it’s the wrong action you will stop and re-evaluate and take the right action.
Given enough time, knowledge and or training, most of us can be or become the person we need to be or want to be to accomplish most anything.
And even if you are not the best at what you are attempting, you will still be damn good! Being damn good at anything can take you a long way.
The second mindset is…Nobody gives a f*ck about you as much as you do. Sure, your parents and family care about you. And some of your friends care about you. But that’s it, they care that you don’t get hurt or get sick.
But not one damn one of them is going to go out and create an awesome life for you to live. Nobody is going go buy a Lamborghini for you to drive around the beach with the top down blasting music. Nobody is going to just give you your dream home and plenty of cash in the bank. Nobody is going to make you stop smoking weed and playing video games all night long and give you an awesome life…
Sorry…for 99% of the people it doesn’t happen that way.
Contrary to popular opinion or popular desire these days, the world doesn’t owe you a damn thing. It doesn’t owe you the car, the house, the money, a good job, none of it!
And if you think I’m lying. Go any big city downtown area and look at the homeless sleeping on the sidewalk as people walk right on by. Completely ignoring the screwed life on ground before their eyes. I’m sure that homeless guy has friends and family that care about him…
But you should understand that you can go out and create that life yourself. I’m not saying it will be easy or quick, it will probably take lots of work. It may take years to create the life style you want.
Sooner or later you will have to decide you want something bad enough to go get it. So how do you finally decide you have had enough and do something?
The third mindset…Get Angry. Doesn’t it bother you that lots of people are living a life you can only dream about?
Well it should…you should be pissed that you have work at a shitty job you hate. Work for some boss that has less talent than you and is most likely less intelligent. You get to look forward to your 3% raise and two weeks off for vacation each year.
And then you wake-up one morning and realize you turn 50 or 60 or ? tomorrow and you have squandered all your 365 day trips around our tiny star.
Haven’t you ever been at a stop light and someone pulls up next to you in what you know is a 150–200k dollar car and you look to see it’s a person your age or younger?
You know you have, and you KNOW you said “WTF!” either out loud or in your head. What the hell are they doing and I’m not? That should seriously make you angry. Angry it’s not you in the car.
Anger can be your friend. Directed anger is a good thing. Anger is motivational and will get you going and get you up in the morning to keep you going in pursuit of the life you want.
The fourth mindset is…Mean what you say. Words are important, what you say is your word and should be unbreakable.
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something” Plato
If you say you are going to do something then you better do it. Otherwise don’t say you are going to. You must be accountable to yourself. Use the fact that you spoke it as the motivation to do it.
If you say you are going to do 250 push-ups then if it takes you 4 hours to do it, too bad you said it now do it. That’s what accountability looks like.
It’s being a man of your word. Your friend calls and needs your help. You say you will be there in 30 minutes. You better be there or be dead or dying when you are not there. That’s what responsibility looks like.
You need to be accountable TO yourself and responsible FOR yourself.
In Conclusion…
Everyone of the 4 mindsets are both easy and hard to do. They are easy if you look at the base meaning to each of the four. Anyone can do them.
But 95% won’t do them consistently or will only do one or two them. You must do all four all the time until you reach what you are after. And because only a few will do them is why…
Most people live a life of quiet desperation…
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